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Genevieve Nathwani's avatar

Brilliant as always Alex, thank you 🙏 Curious to hear how you think about Larger Us’ role in ‘Winning Ugly’? And other roles you see for organisations and individuals in this scenario!

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“Jules argues that part of the answer is that mainstream liberal culture, dominated as it is by the highly educated, progressive left, has “a tendency to promote victim narratives” rather than offering practical self-help.” — wondering if your brother has read Ted Kaczynski because he makes the argument surrounding victim narrative, The Manifesto. I’m no fan of Kaczynski as he was a terrorist and murderer. And he did predict some of the current sociopolitical developments.

I do agree to some extent because, to me, the dynamics reminds me of Karpman’s triangle.

https://www.attachmentproject.com/psychology/drama-triangle/

It is connected not only to early attachment issues and trauma, but also by social and cultural reinforcement.

This drama has played itself out in the political sphere. People are either named a victim, oppressor or a rescuer. If you are assigned the role as oppressor — it’s very difficult to overcome that labeling. Who wants to play the role of the oppressor? And, furthermore, if you see yourself as a ‘victim’ — and that message is reinforced and rewarded by the people around you, a person has little incentive to change their perception of themselves. This is a common stumbling block among survivors who get caught up in victimhood. There’s no way to empower oneself with that mindset. In this sense, the progressive agenda that played out in liberal cities failed — big time. Young people are given message that there are no expectations, no consequences or accountability. That’s permissive and neglectful as a parenting strategy or as a social reform policy. At the same time, they aren’t offered much hope either. GenZ is known as most cynical generation ever. They also commit much more sociopathic, violent crimes as they show a complete disregard for their victims or remorse for the crimes that they commit. They often see privilege which they resent, and often rightfully so, because they cannot see a path outside of poverty. They see no viable path forward with the cost of living and low wage jobs. Even a college degree is no guarantee.

Social media and hashtag identity culture has not helped matters. Be somebody else you’re nobody. Better be someone who stands out with #ADHD or #bipolar or #genderfluid or #gayvisibility than someone who is less identifiable. Most young people struggle with identity and fitting in. As we know, social media has us all addicted for acceptance, appreciation and love. However, social media cannot substitute for the role of teachers, parents and religious and community leaders. (Bruce Perry, Gabor Mate, Dan Siegel have all written about it.) Epidemic suicide rates because young men and women feel a sense of despair and hopelessness.

I think it would be a mistake to blame the left, though, as I don’t believe in the United States that we have an adequate safety net. We don’t have sufficient mental health services. Schools and communities often lack the resources to provide programs that would provide intervention for youth. America is one of the wealthiest countries in the world. However, public educational system is poor. Sports, competition and leisure activities are more important than academics for most families. Crime in major cities is getting worse because, frankly, many children do not have proper role models. As I used to be a middle school teacher, I know many kids committing crimes such as carjacking, theft and acts of violence are most likely grandchildren of children I taught. These kids were called crack babies in the 1980s and 1990s. Many of the children I taught in the inner city ended up in jail. Some of them were probably killed or died of drug abuse. If parents end up in prison, if you drop out of school, join a gang, what happens to their children?

We have a whole generation of young people who have been abandoned and thrown away in large numbers. Might not be your kid, but if we’re not looking out for the rest of the community, what kind of world are we going to experience in another twenty or thirty years?

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